Uhmmmm, I’m not actually on Day 4 today, I’m on Day 7 – I’m just a tad behind getting my daily topical thoughts posted. I’ll try to catch up fully in the next couple of days.
Onto day 4 and the topic of the day. Waiting for something better to come along. Sneaky thought that….. because it’s a double-edged sword and it just doesn’t cut the fat, or does it?
I used to launch into the “All-or-Nothing” plans saying all the right things, telling myself I was totally committed, telling anyone who would listen that I was 100% committed to not straying from the plan, but in the back of my mind, I always knew I was saying the right words, cheerleading the right way, but not really believing or feeling it. A small voice in the deep recesses of my mind would constantly mumble that this is not the right plan, something better will come along soon, something easier – soon, so why torture myself in the meantime? By the end of the first week that little voice would be a bellowing roar, and because I was not truly committed in the first place, listening to the voice was easy.
They say that when you are hypnotised, you cannot be made to do something that goes against your beliefs or value system, so you cannot be made to take your clothes off in public if it’s not something you’d be comfortable doing if you weren’t in a hypnotic state. So it stands to reason that our bodies and minds won’t allow us to commit fully to diets that simply aren’t going to cut it in the long run, right? If you ‘cheat’ on a diet, it was not a good diet to begin with, because the right diet would not call anything you do ‘cheating’. I’m talking about having a few squares of chocolate or half a cup of ice cream here, not scoffing the entire sweet aisle in the supermarket – THAT would not be cheating, that would be the eating disorder ‘Gorgingfatass-Stuff-Me-itis (adding ‘itis to the end of any word makes it a legit disease/disorder).
Even when the plan is great, and our commitment sincere, as mine always was (laughed so hard I peed a little), there was also that other little familiar voice shouting “Yes I’m doing this! Yes I can! Except over Easter, Mother’s Day, my Birthday….. my kids’ birthdays…. Hubby and all my in-laws’ birthdays….. friends and neighbours’ birthdays…….. nieces, nephews, the anniversary of the invention of the radio, all anniversaries and my friends’ pets’ birthdays.
It seems pointless starting the diet so early in the New Year, it is clearly far better to start next year, on 1 January….
So I’d give up on the diet plan, and that little voice would assure me that something better is around the corner – something better is coming along soon, something marginally easier, like a subliminal weight-loss series you listen to in your sleep and magically one week later you’ll lose 40 kilos. True story. Everybody has that friend who did this or that diet and lost a gazillion kilos in their sleep in 4 days and didn’t even end up with any loose flabby skin!
A conditional commitment to being healthy is simply not good enough, it’s worth nothing.
Here’s how I’m making it work for me now………. I am committed to better choices for my health, because I am worth it. As for something better coming along? It might, but UNTIL then, I am going to do this my way, making choices that suit ME, and if something better does come along – well then I’ll be well ahead and on my way already and I would have shed some kilos. I’ve decided to treat it like the whining child wanting attention, wanting mommy to “LOOK AT ME JUMP INTO THE POOOOOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLLLLL” with a sly “Yes dear I will be there in a minute I’m just going to finish what I’m doing, won’t be a minute”…………. *GRIN*… mommy is so not going to look at the kid jumping in the pool…… and from the child’s perspective, the kid will jump into the pool a dozen times anyway, who wants to wait for mommy to come and look and not have a great time splashing around until she does?
So if you’re waiting for that perfect diet, why not pass the time in the interim with better healthier choices, an occasional stretch…… so when better does come along, you’ll realise that the better is in fact YOU……
(I think this is exactly how I’d write and explain things if I was a stoner, some of this is going to make sense to nobody but me!)